This is to all my fellow quiet people out there. You know, the ones ‘you shouldn’t trust’ or ‘you have to watch out for’ quite simply because we’re quiet.
What does that even mean?
Why should we trust and not have to look out for louder people? Is it because of their sheer volume that we know they’re there meaning we have nothing to fear?
Sounds ridiculous doesn’t it?
Well, to us quiet people, being made to feel like we aren’t worthy because ‘we have nothing to say’ when 9 time out of 10 we do, doesn’t feel like a fair correlation.
I’ve been told many times in my life that I’m shy, quiet or quite reserved. And yes, I am.
Yet why is this said in almost a derogatory tone? Why is this seen to be a bad thing by what seems many?
I’ll wait for your answer.
Is it bad because they fear us, as we don’t project our voices to be heard because we can still do this in a quiet tone. Or is it simply because it’s so different to how they are that it makes us ‘odd’.
Well no, the latter certainly isn’t correct.
Embrace being quiet. Never see it as a weakness or a trait that makes you worthless in comparison to others, as that simply isn’t true. Volume does not determine your worth and if anyone has told you that in your life then they’re talking garbage.
I say this as even now as a woman in my (very) late twenties I am told I’m quite quiet, which means I lack confidence. Yes this is true, but lacking confidence doesn’t mean you can’t accomplish great things.
I can’t progress in my work role as I lack confidence and I’m too quiet on video calls. Yet I know exactly what I’m doing, I do have ideas just other personalities are far bigger and louder than mine, meaning I literally don’t get a word in edgeways.
So, how do I win?
You win by recognising who you are and embracing it!
Do not let someone drag you down, or make you feel not worthy enough because of the volume of your voice, or as they would say lack of it. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: there is no correlation between volume of voice and your value.
Whenever you get that burning and shameful feeling of being judged for being quiet, or having it pointed out in a crowd just remember this saying:
Quiet people have the loudest minds.
– Stephen King
Now, Stephen King is a talented and successful man so he’s speaking a lot of truth here.
There is nothing to be ashamed of for being quiet, we are still strong, worthy and capable of anything we put our minds too. Embrace your quietness in all its glory.
Oh, and a response to those who want to rudely point out that: “you’re too quiet”, here’s a reply my dad told me to use that I absolutely love:
Well we have one mouth and two ears, so I’m just using them in the right ratio!
Remember: You’re worthy of the world and more, and the volume of your voice does not dictate your value in life.